If you find a lobster, it's best not to let him go

"You might not be his first, his last or his only...and he's loved before and he might love again. But, if he wants to be with you now what else matters? He's not perfect, and you aren't either. But, if he can make you laugh and admits to being human and making mistakes, hold onto him and give the most you can. He isn't going to quote poetry, and he might not be thinking about you every moment, but he will give you a part of him that he knows you can break. Don't hurt him, don't change him, don't expect more than he can give and don't analyze...smile when he makes you happy, yell when he makes you mad and miss him when he's not there..."

I ran across this the other day, and I felt like whoever wrote that was speaking directly to me.

Those of you who know me well, or at the very least have read my blogs, know that I question everything in my life. From what color of socks to wear to the man in my life, it's one question after the other with me.

But I've learned to focus on the important things, and let the not-so-important ones fall into place.

I've learned that what he does is more important than what he says.

I've learned that having similar goals and wants and needs in life is more important than having someone in your life who says all the right things, but can't remember to call you back.

I've learned that it's important to accept change in people.

I've learned that what my heart tells me is more important than what others say.

I've learned to love without reservation, and I've learned to just trust in what I feel, so that no matter what, I can say that I gave all I had and did all I could to make it work.

I've learned that if you find a lobster, it's best not to let him go.